We are all male in the head, all our society is constracted under the male gaze.
Our music videos show us multimillion pound,successful, international ,beautiful, talented women grinding, as body parts, writhing in showers, on beaches, on beds, in saunas, as strippers, flight attendants, nurses, policemen, in uniform, bondage, bikinis or nothing- the steroetypical characters a teenage boys plays out as fantasy figures- this is the imagination that defines most mainstream imaging- an imagination described as a ‘lack of imagination’.
Often these women are singing to other women about being strong and in control of themselves, as in beyonce, rhianna, shakira, stefani, yet their images in the video are always ‘safely within the pornagraphic imagination’ (Dreamworlds 3, 2007) their objectification undermines their lyrics; they show us that contrary to making their own fate these women have had to become a sum total of their body parts to be listened to, acknowledged.
“'Koss et al (1987) developed a scale of degrees of male aggression used to accomplish intercourse. i. sexually non-aggressive- using persuasion, seeking consensual sex; ii. sexually coercive- using social or emotional coercion, or verbally expressed demands for sex, iii. sexually aggressive and impelling, where men obtain sexual intercourse through threats, or the use of force'”—The Male in the Head Janet Holland, Caroline Ramazanoglu, Sue Sharpe, Rachel Thomson 1998
“Woman may share mens perceptions of a situation and may not, for example, regard themselves as being raped if the man concerned is known to them, if they are drunk at the time, or if they fail to offer effective resistance. In sKinstances women effectively consent to intercourse, or to unsafe sex, which they do not want, either because of what they feel to be social pressures, or becuase of the importance to them of their relationship with a man.
The fears of what the man might do are compounded by the woman’s conception of male sexuality which makes her feel responsible for both his state of arousal and its resolution. Women are positioned so that they can only choose between ‘yes’ and ‘no’ with the fear that ‘no will have no affect”—The Male in the Head Janet Holland, Caroline Ramazanoglu, Sue Sharpe, Rachel Thomson 1998